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My Law of Attraction Stories

My red dressA couple of weeks ago I was honored to be interviewed as a Guest Expert on the V.I.S.S International team training calls. V.I.S.S. is a company that teaches people how to create vision boards and manifest good things in their lives. During the conversation I was asked if I had any experiences to share, where something that I desired came to fruition. Here is a transcript of that part of the interview. It was really fun to think about!!

This is so fun to think about, because I have so many of these. We kind of joke because I always get my way…I always get my way, I say I’m going to do this, and it just always happens; I’m not being cocky about that, but I’ve learned that when you put it out there and you ask for it, things just happen, so I call myself, jokingly, a little spoiled brat, because I’m always going to get my way. When I decide on something, somehow I make it happen.

So I’ve got a couple of fun stories I can share with you. In fact, on my personal blog I’ve got a saying – and my kids actually helped me make this up – it says “Imagine. Believe. Take Action. Succeed,” and that’s kind of a motto for anything, whether it’s personal or business-related, with parenting, marriage, whatever.

One of the funnest stories to tell is about meeting my husband. A lot of people don’t know this but about ten years ago I was a single mom for a couple of years, and during that time was when I learned all about the whole manifestation process, and I really had to look into where exactly I wanted my life to go. I was starting anew, and all that kind of stuff you go through, if you’ve ever been through a divorce. Part of that process was that I a made up a list of the ideal man – I’m sure there are some single people out there who can relate to this, and I highly recommend you do this, because it works. So, I made this list of all these features that this ideal man has…and they were things that were important to me, so it wasn’t physical, they were…qualities in a person that I wanted. Then I actually put it away and I said Oh, I’m done with this dating stuff, I don’t even want to do it anymore. You know how it is when you’re out there and you’re just Oh, forget it, I’m just going to focus on on my kids, and I really decided I was not going to get married again.

Well it was too late, because I’d already written it down and put it out there. Within three weeks or something, I just happened to go to this one dating place online, and this one person was an perfect match for me. Once we got to know each other, it turned out he went to my high school, and we knew each other, had mutual friends, plus all the things on my list. There was only one thing that wasn’t on there that he didn’t have, and that was, I wanted somebody who had kids. The reason was because I wanted somebody who could be a good father.  I’m really glad he didn’t have kids, because that definitely complicates things. But he is a kid at heart, he’s so much fun and playful, so he had that quality already in him.

There are a couple other little stories, like, I wanted to publish a book, and then I saw this publisher post something on her LinkedIn about this book she is working on, and I thought to myself I’m going to be in that book. So I went to sleep, and next day I decided I’m just going to send her a message. And then, I thought to myself, who am I to do this? This was a year ago, so I’d just decided to do this business, and I just messaged her, and I said “Do you need somebody for the book, to talk about Internet marketing?” I was nervous, and I just hit Send. I thought, What the heck, you have to ask for it right? Well, next thing I know, Oh my gosh, yes, I’m so happy you asked, we need you, blah blah blah, so I was able to get in the book that way.

There’s also the Mentored by the Masters CD series, that the DSWA puts out. I had seen it, heard about it, I always looked up to these people and thought, Oh, that’s for these other people, and, like I said, I was just starting this business. Well soon enough I met the person who was organizing that at one of the conventions, and just in chit-chat conversations, she said, “You know, I’m going to have you be in that CD series.” Next thing I know, that’s happening.

I have this car in mind, and I’m going to get this car. We’re seeing them everywhere…you know how you get pregnant, and then you see all these pregnant people everywhere? This car is everywhere now. But at a meeting that I run each week, one of the attendees hadn’t been for a while and showed up. At the end of the meeting he hands me a business card with a picture of this car on his card, because now he’s selling them in the next town over, and he’s going to give me a deal!

The latest one, which I’m really excited about, is I’m having this stylist help me get dressed, because I don’t know how to do that. One of the things I said I would want this year is a red dress. I just love red, but I’ve been struggling with my weight, so I kind of hide behind my clothes, and I have a lot of layers, but I said this year I’m going to have a red dress, and I’m going to get up on stage, and I’m going to speak in a red dress. And my stylist said, Okay, I’ll keep an eye out for a red dress. Well, I got this email from a company, about their sale right after Christmas; I click on it, there is no red dress in the email, but I click to look at what’s on sale, and sure enough, a red dress that I had seen two months ago and thought Oh, that would be awesome…you know, as soon as I lose thirty pounds. And it was really expensive…I’d never spent that much on a piece of clothing, ever…And it was sixty percent off and free shipping! So just the other day I ordered it and it was great.

I have all kinds of stories like that where I just put it out there, I write it down, I email it to somebody, or I just pick up the phone and say to somebody, this is what I want and then, sure enough, it ends up happening. I love that kind of stuff.

Do you have any stories like that? Share them in the comments, I’d love to read them!!

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I’m On the Get Rich Slow Program

My family, on the path.Hi everyone! Did you know I am purposely planning to get rich slow? :) I am! There are many reasons for this and they all make sense to me. I wonder what you think?

First of all, prosperity is not only about money. Yeah money is nice, and the freedom it provides is priceless. But it isn’t the #1 priority for me. I’ve noticed that when others worship the mighty dollar and chase their dreams based only on material gain, they fizzle out, end up with ulcers, or alienate everyone around them. That’s not me.

Secondly, I think of the story of the tortoise and the hare. Slow and steady wins the race – vs. the hare who raced out there like there’s no tomorrow but then got off target, got distracted, fell asleep on the job…Sure I may have a lot of stops and starts (with an emphasis on the starts) but looking at the overall progression of my life, it’s been a slow and steady upward climb. I like it like that. Just fast enough to be fun and challenging, but slow enough that I am able to grow into my new skin gradually at every phase and own it.

Thirdly, I know that my 16 year old daughter will never again see the world through 16 year old eyes, and my 13 year old daughter will never again see the world through 13 year old eyes, and my nearly-7 year old son will never again see the world through nearly-7 year old eyes. And all the days before were different than today, and that tomorrow is another day that will look completely different from the one before it. I know that as a parent, every single moment I have the ability, the power, the opportunity and the responsibility of altering their paths based on how I am living my life, how I am reacting to theirs, what they are seeing, hearing and experiencing in our home and in every environment and situation I put them in.

Working 12 hour days, being away from home for days or weeks on end, and letting the influence of others outweigh my own is not part of my plan.

What is part of my plan is to build the best business I can in roughly 4 hours a day. To be excellent at what I do, with a laser focus during the times I’m working. I’ve streamlined my life so there are no distractions. I don’t watch TV during the day – we DVR everything for when the kids are in bed. I don’t answer the phone live while I am working (or with the kids) except for a “secret bat phone” in case my family needs me. I take time for me, too, and do not start my work day until 10am, allowing time to get everyone off to school plus a morning ritual for myself. This way I am fully present during work time and family time.

It isn’t perfect. There are nights I play catch up and stay up working till 2am, I admit it. But in general, I am on the slow train to paradise. No I take that back. I’m already there. :) We don’t drive fancy cars or live in an upscale home. We have sacrifices and struggles just like everyone else even though I know with a moment’s notice I could bring in more money than we’ve ever seen if I decided to ‘go corporate’ and give up my 4 hour days. It’s not worth it and I’m enjoying the journey! I have the guidance of phenomenal coaches, mentors, and colleagues who have taught me to work smarter, allowing me this freedom. I have a supportive spouse who shares household and parenting responsibilities in stride. I have children with open hearts, minds and spirits who are inspired and empowered as they find their way through life in our care. Life is good in the get rich slow program!

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My Vision Statement

I thought I would share what I wrote out in June of 2010 as a vision statement, with a goal of achieving these things within 12 months. Some of this is already in the works, some of it may take a little longer to achieve :) but this is where I am heading! I’m leaving out specific dollar figures but you get the idea. :) Have you written out a word-picture of your future you?

My business is fun and easy since I am in demand. I am relaxed and confident that it will continue to grow beyond anyone’s expectations so I can enjoy my business and family worry-free. I make X/month after taxes – enough to live the lifestyle I want and still grow my business. This lifestyle includes a weekly housekeeper, monthly kids activities, a bi-weekly yard guy, debt payoff, a contribution to the family fund, a contribution to the vacation fund, investment back into new business development, hired help, other expenses and funds to conduct and participate in events.

I am so happy because my life is in order, my finances are taken care of, the house looks fabulous inside and out, we are able to travel when and where we want, and entertain with ease. I enjoy after school hours and weekends with my family. The kids are participating in the activities they love. We have regular date nights without worrying about expenses. We have replaced our vehicles and are in the process of updating our house with an eye on moving. We live a life of ease, fun, and joy!

Care to share yours?

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A New Year, A New Me!

Greg and Karen ClarkHi everyone! It’s been far too long since I’ve posted to this blog – so much has happened since then – May!?  Let’s see if I can put it all in a nutshell, for anyone who hasn’t been following me on FacebookTwitter or and hasn’t kept up! LOL!

The biggest change has been that I sold my Story Time Felts – Fun Felt for Kids business to a fabulous member of my team, Susie! Those of you who were customers don’t despair – Susie will take care of you! In fact I visited her in New York to begin the transition and I was amazed – she has an entire basement FULL of felt! She has every product the company ever made – in multiples – as well as her own creations in the way of plain felt boards, lap boards, small broken up sets etc. If you don’t see something on the site, ask her I am sure she can get it for you!

The reason I left Story Time Felts isn’t because of the economy or that it wasn’t doing well or anything like that, it is just that I felt called to move on. I’d been with them for 12 years and grown so much personally and professionally in that time, and it was time to break away into my very own business. One of the things I always enjoyed doing – marketing my business online – has now turned into a business for me and I love it!

My Business Presence is a training and consulting company that I run, specializing in helping entrepreneurs and direct selling professionals build an ethical online presence for their businesses. I do this through conducting local hands-on classes and workshops, speaking at small and large group events and conventions, coaching people one on one over the phone or in person, conducting webinars and teleclasses and sometimes even doing things for those busy clients who just want to get it done! My focus right now is on WordPress websites and blogs, Facebook fan pages and other social media accounts, and search engine optimization. I also teach people how to increase their local leads through online marketing and some other internet marketing techniques. This year one of my big goals is to have at least one paid speaking gig per month training groups on social media or general online presence. Do you know a group who needs a guest speaker?

This year I was published in not one but two books, too! This is very exciting and has led to many opportunities for me. The first book is Direct Selling Power and my chapter teachers those in direct sales (party plan, network marketing etc.) how to market their businesses online. The second book, Incredible Business, features a chapter by me about online social networking. One of my goals for this year is to publish my own book about marketing online!

I hope you will connect with me on Facebook and also subscribe here if you haven’t already! I have a lot to share and will be posting regularly again. Starting this week I am participating in a 30 Day Blogging Challenge sponsored by the V7N Community. I’ll be splitting my daily posts between this blog, my My Business Presence blog, and my Weight Loss Journey blog. I hope to see more of you on any of those platforms!

Thanks for reading!

PS: Check out that list of 101 Wishes at the top of this blog – I wrote that in 2008 and have been crossing things off! Happy New Year!

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Is Working from Home That Difficult?

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I posted this on my business website years ago and rediscovered it today. I found that it applies to ANY work from home business, or any “solopreneur” business. This article still gives me chills! Being in business for yourself and affording yourself the gift of time, flexibility, and family, profoundly affects the future, no matter what your chosen profession.

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  • It is difficult when you must produce a report on a Sunday afternoon and cannot attend your son’s football game.
  • It is difficult hearing the mobile phone ring on Christmas morning and you cannot see the excitement on your daughter’s face as she feverishly tears into another box.
  • It is difficult knowing the rust bucket you call a car is eating you alive in maintenance but you cannot afford a new one.
  • It is difficult to go to your annual performance review, and even though you have worked hard for another year, you come away empty handed.
  • It is difficult knowing that you shop by sticker rather than whether the garment looks good on you.
  • It is difficult knowing that the house you are in is because prices just went up and your budget is to the bare bones.
  • It is difficult knowing that you married a wonderful person, and promised them the world, and for the next 30 years you look at balancing the budget and figuring out what sacrifices must be made.
  • It is difficult reciting “If we get this we cannot have that”.
  • It is difficult always lowering your dreams to meet your means.
  • It is difficult knowing that you have spent 40 years of your life working for someone else only to realize that you will be retiring on 1/3 of what you cannot live on today.
  • It is difficult when your children move out and you cannot visit them because traveling costs too much.
  • It is difficult knowing that the fish are biting this week and you cannot drop what you are doing and take your Dad fishing.
  • It is difficult watching the spark in your partner’s eyes fade because both of you realize the house you have been wanting is just a dream because someone else is controlling your finances.
  • It is difficult waking up one morning and realizing that your children, the most precious things imaginable, no longer need bottles, diapers, have tea parties, eat things found under the sofa, are shorter than the baseball bat they are trying to swing, but instead are grown and starting their own families and you missed all of that because you agreed to be locked in an office for twenty years by a boss who watched his children grow up.
  • It is difficult dropping your one year old at the nursery because you have to be at work by 9am to stand by the Xerox machine or handle irate phone calls and realize someone else is going to watch your daughter take her
  • first step or have your son say “dada” to the playground teacher.
  • It is difficult knowing that you have diligently worked only to be given an early retirement.

I will tell you what is difficult. It is real difficult realizing it is too late and that time flittered away can never be retrieved. It slips through our fingers one second at a time.

What are we doing with it? We have nasty habits about rationalizing, procrastinating and skirting important things rather than facing the issues. Too often we allow others who do not pay our bills, who do not share our dreams, to direct our future.

  • We have absolutely no freedom as a child.
  • We rebel in our teen years and scream for freedom.
  • We die for the right to be free.
  • We fight vicious wars to have the seemingly innocent ability to choose.
  • We reach adulthood and we relinquish freedom because we think it is too difficult.
  • We do not want to take responsibility.
  • We do not want to make a wrong decision so we obligingly give that awesome power to someone else.
  • We feel it will take too much time. Then, we have the audacity to complain when the decisions made were not what we wanted.
  • We wake up too late. Phrases like “I wished I had only”, “If I could only have that time back” etc.

I believe the majority of people want to sing, but die with the music still inside. Face the music and shoulder some responsibility. You cannot have that time back. You have chosen your direction. If you have not spent your time wisely, too bad.

You have no one but yourself to blame. You had the chance. Perhaps the opportunity was presented many times and each time you elevated the trivial to a higher priority than yourself.

Is working from home/direct sales really difficult? Is it so traumatic to show someone an exciting product or idea? Is it so difficult to understand that if you work this marketing idea for several years you might not have to confront some nasty options?

Would you work real hard for 3 – 5 years so you could put your family in the home of their dreams?
Would you work real hard for 3 – 5 years so you could send your children to college chosen by excellence rather than one chosen by price, the same criteria you used for clothes shopping?
Would you turn off the idiot box, the soaps, the talk shows, sporting events or X Files for a year so you could take dream vacations several times a year?
Would you apply yourself for 3 – 5 years so you would have the freedom of being able to roll over, yank the covers over your head and wake at the crack of noon because you wanted to?
Would you work really hard for 5 years to mold a lifestyle of your choosing so your family could live a lifestyle of their dreams, rather than trying to live how someone else thinks you should live?

We really think we are important in our “jobs.” The company we work for cannot survive without us. Everything would grind to a halt without our presence.

Think again. Corporations are not structured like that.

A corporation does not rely on people to remain viable. A corporation needs many properly arranged little squares, functioning in a preset order to survive. After many years as a manager in the corporate environment, here is an excellent visualization of your importance. Find a bucket and fill it about 3/4 full of warm water. Make a fist and push your left arm in the bucket up to your elbow. Now, quickly remove your arm. The resulting hole is your impact. Sobering, isn’t it?

Can you identify the words “next time”? How many “next times” will you have?

What will it take to get you off dead center?

Will it be knowing that people are mentally and physically deteriorating when you have a product that will help them but are afraid of someone thinking you are taking advantage of that person and are just out for the money?

Gosh, I hope not.

Will it be knowing that people are agonizing through bankruptcy, realizing they only needed a couple hundred more dollars per month, not $50,000 per month, but you procrastinated once again?

I hope not.

Realize the awesome power you have in your hands. The business you have chosen has the ability to change lives.

IT cannot do anything. But YOU can change lives with IT.

You are the one with the life changing ability. What are you waiting for?

What will it take?

You will pay a price for your actions. Which one do you choose to pay?

There is pain in success and there is pain in failure! Pain in $uccess will last a short period of time….Pain in Failure lasts a LIFETIME! Which one is really more painful? You will decide….either way!

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